Become Persuasive Now: Exploit These Thinking Tools
“Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, ‘Make me feel important.’ Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life.” – Mary Kay Ash
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Comparative advantage shows how focusing on your strengths rather than trying to excel at everything puts you at an advantage. It makes you more persuasive. This means emphasizing your unique selling points where you, your product or service outperform rivals. Align your message with your strongest differentiators. Build credibility and trust for your strong suit.
Reciprocity is a cornerstone of human communication. Humans feel obligated to return favors. Thus it is a cornerstone of persuasion. You can, as a salesperson, offer value upfront—whether through free resources, small gifts, or assistance—and create a sense of indebtedness. Others are more likely to say yes to your proposals thereafter.
Leverage in persuasion refers to using tools, resources, and/or strategies to amplify your ability to sway others. Paired with the 80/20 rule or Pareto principle, it encourages you to concentrate on the small, high-impact actions that deliver the greatest results. This could be recording your sales calls to identify the 20 percent of objections that prevent 80 percent of successful conversions. Find the vital few. Craft responses. Directly address those concerns. Sell more.
The scarcity principle drives action by virtue of limited availability. You have had it used on you. Many times. Whether of time, resources, or opportunities. People value and act on what feels rare. This is priceless in sales, where creating urgency is a keystone strategy. “Only 5 spots left!” and “Limited-edition offer!” can nudge hesitant customers into committing to the purchase.
Akin to scarcity, incentives pervade all persuasion efforts because they align your request with what the other party wants. Intrinsic and extrinsic motivators. These enable you to tailor your offers and messages that resonate specifically with your target audience. This dramatically increases buy-in rates. “Special” and “Made for you” products tap into this tendency. But so does simply looking after your client, offering them niceties and calling them by their name.
Tribalism appeals to another deeply rooted desire: to belong to a group or a community. To be part of a tribe. By framing your product, service, idea, or yourself as part of a shared identity or movement, you create emotional resonance. Combine this with empathy mapping for superb results. Understanding your audience’s goals, fears, frustrations, pains, and gains, and catering your offer accordingly makes for an effective presentation. Who doesn’t want something that makes them feel socially and emotionally addressed?
You hate losing. You don’t just hate it, you’re afraid of it. Loss aversion is that human tendency: to fear losses more than we value gains. In sales, emphasizing what someone stands to lose by not acting taps into this. These could be opportunities or benefits. “Only 5 spots left for the sale on our personalized leadership mentoring seminar! Sign up while you can!” pulls on many of the strings above: tribalism (a lot of people supposedly signed up), empathy (supposing the audience is interested in leadership), incentives (leadership is highly valuable), scarcity (only 5 spots are left, this might be a rare opportunity), reciprocity (the limited-time sale makes us feel indebted), and comparative advantage (our personalized mentoring seminar is likely our strong suit, as it is a niche product). That’s how you sell. Make your audience feel like they are missing out.
The Minto pyramid makes sure you don’t waste your audience’s time. Everybody is busy. You yourself are in a constant race against the clock. The Minto pyramid takes care of that: it organizes your arguments from the critical point down to supporting details. In persuasion, this structure ensures your audience gets the message clearly. It makes your presentation more compelling and easier to digest. Start with the value. Argue and prove your arguments later.
In a similar fashion, conflict resolution diagrams help identify and address needs and concerns in disagreements. When persuading a customer, this model enables you to reframe objections as solvable issues. Don’t take no. No is not an answer. If you are selling something you really believe in, the customer would probably benefit from having it. The both of you want to achieve the same goal, just in different ways. Prove this to them by virtue of this diagram, and you make the sale.
The framing effect is an invaluable tool for understanding how powerful the presentation is. The product matters less than the conversation. Most of the time. For example, presenting your weight loss program as “95 percent effective” capitalizes on positive framing. That would be a more efficient message than “5 percent of my clients fail”. This subtle change goes a long way. Imagine now the same example for surgery, business or investment results, or other high-stakes initiatives. You don’t want to hear “failure” and “business” in the same sentence.
In persuasion, the half-life concept encompasses understanding that your message is not going to be relevant forever. It won’t be impactful after a while. That’s when you switch it up and revisit key points. You reinforce your value proposition. Just because you mentioned the possibilities of your marketing agency to your clients once at the beginning of the presentation, does not mean you do not mention them again. Your key arguments will fade from their memory. Repeat them. Periodically.
The least effort principle is self-explanatory: people take the path of least resistance. The easy way out. Instant gratification. The one-click buy-in. The no-hassle membership. In sales, this manifests as simplifying decision-making processes and reducing friction for your clients. Streamline the purchasing process. Make your messaging easy-to-digest—try the Minto pyramid. The core: get more conversions by making your persuasion easier to absorb.
The false uniqueness effect is when you underestimate how many others share your skills and preferences. When you feel you are unique, when you really are not. As a persuader, you can use this to your advantage by affirming how individual and standout your audience is. Make them feel unique. Special. Extraordinary. But care not to run into the boomerang effect: where selling too hard gets you zero sales. Balance affirmation with subtlety. In our leadership seminar message, this could be adding “for industry leaders like you…”
Any marketing book, salesperson, or advertiser will echo a universal truth to you: to sell well, step into the other person’s shoes. The curse of knowledge keeps you from doing that. It acts as a barrier to persuasion because you assume others understand your perspective and/or expertise. Try not to fall for it. Simplify. Use relatable analogies. Explain like you would to somebody with a fourth-grade comprehension level. Don’t make them feel stupid, but don’t bombard them with inaccessible jargon either. Your aim is to have a lasting impact, not to prove yourself a dictionary.
Next to making the logic understandable, don’t forget you are talking to a human. Aristotle’s rhetorical appeals—ethos (credibility), pathos (emotion), and logos (logic)—remind you to care for each aspect. You are not talking to a purely logical, rational being. You are persuading a human. Balance trustworthiness, emotional resonance, and logical argumentation. Nobody wants to be bombarded with sheer statistics. People have diverse motivations. They don’t want the quarter-inch drill bit. They don’t want the quarter-inch hole in their wall, either. They want to hang up their television to watch it with their family.
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, are the golden and platinum rules. The golden rule you know and love: treat others like you would want to be treated. But have you heard of the platinum alternative? Most have not: treat others like they want to be treated. This acts as a strong foundation. You can call these two simple rules the concrete base of any sale. You respect the other party’s needs and values, and their wants and wishes, and build trust and a genuine connection to provide value for them. There you go. Sold.